Event Details

Lifetime Lessons for Loving: From First Site to Forever. What’s the secret to a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship? 

This event is full and registration is closed.  To be added to the wait list, please contact Ilana G. Carlin at ilana.carlin@cornell.edu

What’s the secret to a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship? How do you even get started in finding that special someone? From learning to present yourself online, to understanding how we perceive behavior on first dates, to absorbing the sage advice of our nation’s eldest married couples, join us for a journey on the relationship timeline and learn what it takes to make it from romance’s beginnings to forever. Hear professional relationship insights and advice from three field experts:  Erika Ettin ’03 (Founder, alittlenudge.com & online dating consultant), Dr. Marisa T. Cohen ’06 (Assistant Professor, St. Francis College & Founder of the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab), and Dr. Karl Pillemer (Professor, College of Human Ecology & author of 30 Lessons for Loving). Featuring presentations, panel discussion and Q&A. Enjoy Valentine’s Day inspired hors d’oeuvres and drinks.

Featuring professional relationship insights from three field experts:

  • Erika Ettin ’03 (Founder, alittlenudge.com & online dating consultant)
  • Dr. Marisa T. Cohen ’06 (Assistant Professor, St. Francis College & Founder of the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab)
  • Dr. Karl Pillemer (Professor, College of Human Ecology & author of 30 Lessons for Loving).
  • Moderated by Katrina James ’96

Date: Thursday, February 11, 2016
Time: 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM
6:30 p.m. – 7:00 p.m. – Welcome reception
7:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. – mini-presentations, panel conversation and Q&A
8:00 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. – Closing reception, book signing
Cost: $20 per person/  $10 for CCNY members
Location: Cornell Club-New York, 6 E. 44th Street, New York, NY
CCNY members please register with Raechel Walker directly 

Event questions, please contact Ilana G. Carlin at ilana.carlin@cornell.edu

About our speakers:

Erika Ettin ’03 (Arts & Sciences) is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company thathelps people navigate the world of online dating and  the author of Love at First Site: Tips & Tales for Online Dating Success from a Modern-Day Matchmaker. Ettin studied economics at Cornell and received her MBA from Georgetown’s Evening Program in 2009. She started A Little Nudge in April of 2011 (after a seven-year career at Fannie Mae as an economist). She has worked with over 500 clients and is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.”


Dr. Marisa T. Cohen ’06 (Agriculture & Life Sciences) is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at St. Francis College in Brooklyn and the Director of the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab (SABL). Her research focuses on peoples’ perceptions of love and infidelity. Dr. Cohen is also an active contributor to Science of Relationships.com and often presents guest lectures on her relationship science research and its application to everyday life. She student Biology & Society at Cornell and obtained her Ph.D. in Educational Psychology, with a concentration in Learning, Development, and Instruction from the Graduate Center of the City University of New York.

Dr. Karl Pillemer is the Director of the Bronfenbrenner Center for Translational Research and the Hazel E. Reed Professor in the Department of Human Development at Cornell University, and a Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at the Weill Cornell Medicine. Pillemer also directs the Cornell Legacy Project and is author of the books 30 Lessons for Living and 30 Lessons for Loving. His major interests center on human development over the life course, with a special emphasis on family and social relationships in middle age and beyond. Pillemer’s current research projects span his interests in aging and the family, long-term and palliative care, developing effective models for translational research, and studies of elder wisdom. His research is funded by the National Institute on Aging, the National Institute for Nursing Research, and a variety of foundation sources.


 Katrina James ’96 (Human Ecology) is the Strategic Operations Advisor for Secondary and Collegiate Programs  at  the Harlem Children’s Zone.  She is responsible for assessing and improving programs  and  promoting efficiencies throughout HCZ’s charter high schools, afterschool programs, and  College Success Office.  Katrina joined the Harlem Children’s Zone from Skadden Arps,  where she conducted internal investigations for corporations and their boards and advised  clients regarding business compliance. A dedicated Cornell volunteer for 20 years, Katrina  served three terms as Chair of the Cornell University Council.  She has previously served as  Chair of the Committee on Alumni Trustee Nominations, President of the Alumni Class of 1996, President of the Cornell Black Alumni Association, and on several other Cornell boards. She currently serves as Vice Chair of Cornell Mosaic, and is planning her 20th reunion.