Chime In The Healing Power of Music Stories You May Like Fans, Fireworks, and Fun: Homecoming 2024 in Photos Which Cornell Dairy Ice Cream Flavor Are You? Which Big Red Ghost Are You? Singing with the University Chorus at Reunion reminded me how important connection is—especially now By Alison Torrillo French ’95 Several days after I returned from Reunion 2022, where I had the privilege of performing with the Cornell University Chorus for its centennial, a classmate of mine posted these lyrics on social media: "I was singing with my sisters, I was singing with my friends, And we all will sing together ’Cause the circle never ends." I’ve been thinking about the lyrics—from “Will the Circle be Unbroken,” a spiritual we sang during the celebration—for some time now in light of the importance of both connection and music in this ever-changing, often crazy, world. You may remember Abraham Maslow and his “hierarchy of needs” from Psych 101. Maslow posited that basic survival needs like food and water must be satisfied before we are able to activate what he considered higher-level needs, including belonging and self-actualization. As it turns out, however, researchers have since discovered that social needs like connection and love are as basic as our need for food, water, and shelter—and that in fact, our brains treat them the same way. Think about the pandemic—now in year three—and how the initial (and, in some cases, continued) isolation may have affected you, your family, your friends, your coworkers. Some of the more introverted among us may have welcomed several of the changes that ensued, but even they suffered a loss—the loss of true human connection. University Chorus alumni celebrate the group's centennial at Reunion ’22. According to a 2010 article in the journal PLOS Medicine that reviewed 148 prior studies, stronger social connections were associated with a 50% greater likelihood of avoiding premature death—exceeding the benefits of exercise, and comparable with those of being a nonsmoker. A Harvard University study—begun in 1938 to identify predictors of healthy aging—has had similar findings, which spanned ages, genders, races, and levels of economic status: connections to family, to friends, to a community, keep us happier, physically healthier, and living longer than someone who is less well connected. Social needs like connection and love are as basic as our need for food, water, and shelter. Brain research shows that, when humans make connections, oxytocin is released. This is the same hormone released in pregnant mothers to bond with their babies. Oxytocin has also been found to lower the stress hormone cortisol and even promote the growth of new brain cells. I’ve seen this happen in real life when meeting someone for the first time and realizing you both have kids the same ages, went to the same college (Go Big Red!), love the same music, or root for the same sports team (Go Big Red hockey!), just to cite a few examples. Stories You May Like Fans, Fireworks, and Fun: Homecoming 2024 in Photos Which Cornell Dairy Ice Cream Flavor Are You? All of a sudden, our heart rate evens out and we start to relax, maybe even let down our guard a bit, leaving us open to serendipity. Now, when I think about this in terms of what I experienced back on the Hill in June—wow, was that oxytocin off the charts! Share your 'perspective'! Do you have an idea for a personal essay? Send it to us at: cornellians@cornell.edu! Not only was I reconnecting with old friends with so much shared history, but I was also meeting new ones who had one simple yet extremely powerful thing in common: their membership in, and love of, the Cornell Chorus. Now, add to that the act of singing together, each of us adding a unique part to create a beautiful whole. Not only did 100+ of us, ranging from alums from the 1950s to current students, perform our formal concert, but a smaller group sang together informally in the atrium of Goldwin Smith—our arms around one another, with outgoing director Sarah Bowe right in the middle, voices from all eras filling the space with an incredible sound that words cannot describe. The graduating seniors from the Chorus and Glee Club at Commencement 1995. French is second from right in the back row, to the right of longtime choral director Thomas Sokol. When you combine the power of connection with the power of creation, something truly remarkable happens. We strengthen a bond—the circle that never ends—and we experience something bigger than any one of us on our own. And for me, it was a much-needed balm in a very trying time, and a memory I will hold in my heart to help get me through whatever comes next. Alison Torrillo French ’95 majored in communication in CALS. She has served as an officer for her class for 27 years (including 20 as class correspondent). She is the managing director of Alto Solutions, LLC, a women-owned small business based in the Washington, DC, area, specializing in consulting in organizational change and leadership, as well as facilitation, coaching, and training. Top image: Illustration by Cornell University. All photos on this page provided. Published August 3, 2022 Comments Janice Obuchowski, Class of 1998 3 Aug, 2022 So lovely and true, Alison! This was an amazing experience, and you captured an essential part of it really well. Reply Alison Torrillo French, Class of 1995 7 Aug, 2022 Thank you, Janice! It was wonderful to see you and sing together! Reply Jeanne Arnold Schwetje, Class of 1978 4 Aug, 2022 This is a wonderfully- written and touching essay, Allison! Thank you for writing about our creative connection and it’s importance, especially now. Thank you for writing so eloquently about the connection that we all felt… hugs! Jeanne Reply Alison Torrillo French, Class of 1995 7 Aug, 2022 Thank you, Jeanne! I loved meeting you at the Centennial and am grateful for our continued connection. Reply Jody Haynes, Class of 1993 9 Aug, 2022 Beautiful, timely and accurate sentiments! Reply Alison Torrillo French, Class of 1995 11 Aug, 2022 Thanks Jody, so nice to see your name here! Reply James, Class of 1982 9 Aug, 2022 Hmm. What activity involves maskless close proximity and deep breathing? Choral singing is beginning to return but for good reason it was suspended for quite a while. Reply Alison Torrillo French, Class of 1995 11 Aug, 2022 I think you missed the point here. Reply Christine Del Favero, Class of 1996 10 Aug, 2022 Thank you, Alison, for sharing your story and this important message of how much these connections- our Big Red, CU connections- mean and can continue to mean, if we invest in them. My heart is bursting to know you felt such connectedness at reunion, and, thanks to your story, I feel a swelling of togetherness, too. Reply Alison Torrillo French, Class of 1995 11 Aug, 2022 Christine, this is so lovely. I am tearing up a bit reading this. I am so happy that it hit home so powerfully for you and so many others. Reply Leave a Comment Cancel replyOnce your comment is approved, your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment * Name * Class Year Email * Save my name, email, and class year in this browser for the next time I comment. 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